The theology of playing with dolls

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When I was a child, I played with dolls. That’s no great revelation for a little girl growing up in the 1950s and ’60s (yes, I’m that old!). I am the sixth of seven daughters, so my younger sister and I had not just our own dolls (new every Christmas) but all the abandoned dolls of our older siblings. I fondly recall a whole corner of the room we shared populated with dolls of every shape and size and color.

Most of these dolls didn’t do anything. They didn’t walk or say “mama” or perform any tricks, they just opened themselves to our imagination. Eileen and I WERE their voices, we moved them as we chose, we assigned them names and personalities. The one exception to not doing anything was my doll Agnes, who came to me at about age 7. I remember marveling on Christmas morning when my mother showed me that Agnes could answer questions “yes” or “no” with a nod or a shake of her head. Even when I understood that the button on her belly was “yes” and the button on back produced a “no,” I still found it marvelous. Maybe that same year, Eileen got her Betsy-Wetsy doll and could change its diapers (cloth, of course).

None of our dolls, I also recall, were the characters of movies or TV shows (now, with our paper dolls, that was a different issue, but that’s for another day). We did have Shirley Temple dolls that we loved, but Shirley was so many characters wrapped up in one that we were never limited to the roles our ringleted little friend had played. We loved our Ginny dolls, who were about 6″ tall and had lots of fun outfits. (I still have my Mary Ann’s tiny Dutch wooden shoes.) Barbies didn’t enter our collection — we (and definitely our mother) were not interested in glamour but in imaginative play.

I’m thinking about all this today because I just ventured into Toys “R” Us for my first granddaughter’s first birthday doll. I had to look pretty hard for a baby doll that wasn’t a Disney character and didn’t have some sort of hard-edged speaker in its tummy and didn’t poop a magical formula into diapers you’d have to keep buying, just like the real thing. I found a sweet baby with no name except the one she’ll eventually earn from her little mama, and better, one that can go into the tub for a real bath.*

Why is all this so important to me? Because playing with the imagination is the best part of playing dolls. Whether they’re babies that help us be pretend mommies and daddies, little-girl dolls like the Ginny (or American Girls today), or even the bears and bunnies and ponies that accompany our children to bed, these toys are the ticket to a world of imaginary adventures that take girls AND boys beyond their everyday world and, most importantly, beyond themselves.

baptism babies In my Godly Play room, one of the favorite lessons is Baptism, which includes baby dolls (in my room, three babies with different skin tones). Part of the appeal of this story during work time is the opportunity to handle the “babies,” and I am especially touched to see boys — perhaps for the only time in their lives — enjoy the pleasure of these pretend little people and the nurturing role the dolls inspire.

Playing with dolls may help children imagine the things that they see (playing games of ‘as-if’) but it also opens the gateway to imagining things that no one has ever seen (‘what-if’), and isn’t that the kind of play that can help us imagine our way into the kingdom of God? Let us pray for a kingdom of love and compassion and hope and redemption and joy; and above all, let us play.

*(I also found it shocking in multi-ethnic Northern Virginia to see a huge array of white baby dolls and hardly any of color. What’s up with that? Again, an issue for another day.)

Preaching with children

One day, I’m going to create a blog around preaching with children and post my sermons there. I take them very seriously — it’s not a light thing we do. If you are reading this because you’re drawn to the Godly Play theme of this blog, you already know that!

To begin, I’m going to post here some “how-to’s” — purely subjective (especially my aversion to puppets) and mostly derived from my Godly Play experience.

As a chaplain serving a lower school (grades Jr. K to 5) for the past 6 years, and as a parish priest, Sunday School volunteer, and parent over the years, I believe I can offer some guidance.

The following originated as a message to a seminarian who asked my advice:

Ah, the children’s sermon . . . Everyone has to do it, and no one teaches you how!! one of these days I will teach a course, since no homiletics professor I know considers it a subject worthy of their time.

I am no expert, but I do preach with children every week at school, and about once a month at church.

Notice that I saw “preach with,” because I just don’t like the sound of “preach to.” I use the same language about adult sermons. It is a two-way conversation, a dialogue, even if only one person is speaking out loud.

So . . . a few do’s and don’ts:
DO preach short (I print mine on one side of a single sheet, in two columns, landscape style, single spaced — this creates a sheet you can fold in half and tuck into a prayerbook.)
DO preach with as few notes as you can. As noted above, I do prepare a manuscript. It’s a necessary part of the process for me. When possible, I preach without text. But when using the manuscript, I know it well enough that it’s really a prop and most of the time, my eyes are on the congregation. If you are a Godly Play practitioner, you are well prepared for speaking from the heart. MORE IMPORTANT than whether you use notes or not is whether you love what you’re saying and convey it in a way that shows you love the children, and that God loves us all.
DO strive for something that is accessible to the children BUT also contains food for the adults. This is critical and helps prevent talking down to the children. (Sometimes the children’s sermon is the only sermon at a particular service. Sometimes a preacher will finish talking with the children and then preach the “real” sermon. Needless to say, I hate that approach.)
DO smile 🙂 not that I have to tell you that.
DO your usual exegesis! Many people believe they can find a children’s sermon in a book because a) they are out of ideas, 2) they are afraid of children or 3) they do not think that study is worth their time for “just a children’s sermon.” I know this because I worked at a seminary library, and every Saturday some student would come in asking for a book they could use for a children’s sermon *the next day.* 😦 Just as in an adult sermon, you will not “show your work” in your sermon, but you will have something to say if you engage the text in a serious way.
DO tell stories! Either from your own experience or from a book or movie the children know.
DO use an object(s) if they help you make a point. Do not feel that you MUST have something to show (a la the “brown bag” sermon schtick) — but children are fascinated by something as simple as pouring water from a pitcher into a bowl, or using a cornucopia filled with familiar and strange fruits/vegetables to talk about God’s generosity.

DON’T

ask the children questions in front of the congregation. I know, I know, this is what many people expect. It puts children on the spot. It encourages them to be entertaining, to get a laugh; or it embarrasses them and discourages them from sharing their thoughts. Either way is IMHO disrespectful. Resist the people who want the children to say “cute” things for the benefit of the adults. No one expects adults to share their responses to the gospel out loud in front of their peers. Also, It can also be hard to regain control once the competition to answer begins.
(An exception is to ask a question that everybody knows the answer to and can say together, like “what happened in Haiti last year?” or “what holiday is coming?”
DON’T tower above them if they are sitting up front in the chancel. Sit with them. If the adults can’t see you, that’s OK. (Personally I prefer to have the children stay with their parents — it discourages the kind of “performance” mentality described above.
DON’T call them “kids” or “kiddies.” Not that you would. I have a personal distaste for “boys and girls” which I can’t quite explain.
DON’T necessarily end with a moral. One of the homiletics gurus who dismissed my request that he cover children’s sermons replied that all children need is a moral. NOOOOOO – they need stories with which they can make their own meaning. This doesn’t mean that you don’t interpret the lesson for them. But pat answers and platitudes are not what children need.
DON’T use puppets if you can help it. Again, just a personal bias 🙂 Puppets creep me out.

You can tell I’ve heard a lot of bad, and good, children’s sermons. I am sure I’ve preached my share of bad ones, but I always strive to do better.

Jeez, I thought I didn’t have much to say. In summary avoid the canned crap and treat the children and the text with the same respect you would give their parents and grandparents. If you love God, the scripture, and the children, they will know it. YOU WILL DO GREAT!!

Matthew 10:34-42

Feast of St. Alban – 6/26/16 (tr. 6/22)

St. Alban’s Annandale

The Rev. Dr. Rosemary Beales

 

Do not think I have come to bring peace to the earth — not peace, but a sword.

This past week was anything but peaceful for me. Every day, Monday through Friday, I drove 80 miles on the Beltway — an ordeal in itself, but that was just the beginning. At the other end, in Crofton, MD, I spent my days with two grandsons, ages 10 and 5. Normally, that would be a week of Grandma fun. But I was the backup child care plan for boys who have driven away every other provider by their negative and rebellious behavior. They can also be sweet, funny and affectionate, but they’ve just come through an unusually hostile divorce and are reacting the only way they know how at the moment. To care for them, I’m giving up a lot of my summer vacation and the other plans I’ve made, and

there’s only one force in the world that

provides the power to do such a thing. . . .

 

I tell you this story not because I need sympathy ( OK, I do, a little) but because today’s gospel asks us to rethink our devotion to our families.

For even though Jesus says that our “foes will be members of [our] own household,” I don’t think he wants me to abandon my grandchildren. I don’t think Jesus means me to ditch my daughter when she most needs to keep her job and support these boys and their baby sister.

But he does mean there’s a choice to be made. Today’s gospel is part of a long speech Jesus makes to his chosen disciples as he sends them out to do the mission work of the kingdom. He’s warning them of the difficulties they’ll face, the divisions they’ll endure, the betrayals they’ll suffer — even the lives they stand to lose. He’s also holding before their eyes the promise: that those who lose their life for my sake will find it — that death is not the end, that LOVE is stronger than death.

 Alban, whose feast we celebrate today, must have heard that message. You probably know his story better than I do, but it’s one that bears repeating ¾ especially in a world that is increasingly hostile to the Christian message.

Alban was not a Christian, but a pagan soldier, when his story — at least the part we know — begins in southern England. We don’t know anything about his father and mother, brothers or sisters, much less his grandma. But as we’ll see in the story, we do know something about who he considered his family to be.

Only a few hundred years into the Christian era, Alban met a fugitive priest, fleeing from persecutors. Who knows why he welcomed this man into his home, but he did…and found his heart moved by the priest’s constant prayer, his fasting, his faith. Within days, Alban became a Christian himself. So when the emperor’s troops came to investigate rumors that Alban was shielding a fugitive, he was prepared. Cloaking himself in the priest’s clothing, Alban allowed himself to be arrested instead. Taken before the judge, Alban was sentenced to endure all the punishments that were to be inflicted on his guest. Asked who his family was, Alban replied,

“My parents called me Alban,

and I worship and adore

the true and living God,

who created all things.”

In other words, he was saying, “my family is those who also worship God; my family is all who were created BY the true and living God.”

For one of those family members, Alban was willing to give his own life. Taking the man’s punishment on himself, Alban was beheaded, becoming the first British martyr and first British saint. He gave his own life in devotion to

a family that was more than blood relatives,

a family worth shedding his own blood for..

 

There’s only one force in the world that

provides the power to do such a thing.

That force, as you in St. Alban’s family know well,

Is LOVE.

It’s love that empowers people in a culture in love with violence

To put their fellow humans above their own comfort,

their own peace, even above life itself ¾

For love is stronger than death.

 

It was LOVE that drove a man a month ago to kiss his wife goodbye in the morning, to call her on the way to lunch with a co-worker, and then, before he could enter the restaurant, to step between another woman and the gunman confronting her in the parking lot.

 

Without hesitation, Mike Winffel took the bullet meant for a stranger. With an extension of the same kind of LOVE that drew him to a thousand small kindnesses for his wife, children, and neighbors, Mike Winffel lived the words of today’s gospel . . .

Those who lose their life for my sake will find it.

 But why did he have to be such a hero,

Mike’s shocked and grieving wife asked her pastor

in the terrible hours after his death?

Gently, the pastor corrected her.

“Heroes are for the media,” he said.

“Mike was a martyr.”[1]

There’s only one force in the world that

Provides the power to do such a thing . . .

The power of LOVE also drove a bouncer to risk death in Orlando’s Pulse nightclub to open a back door and allow 70 people — 70 brothers and sisters — to escape the horror . . .[2]

The power of LOVE led teachers to shield children — as if they were their children — with their own bodies from the terror at Sandy Hook three years ago.[3]

The power of LOVE may call any one of us,

at any time in a culture in love with violence,

To testify with our bodies,

To become what the word martyr means,

A witness to the LOVE of Christ.

But meanwhile, we have a parish picnic to put on . . .

A celebration of the thousand small kindnesses

of this community

formed of faith,

bound not by blood alone             but by Christ’s body and blood.

 

Those thousand small kindnesses form us,

creating in us a habit that puts others first

So that if we ever are called upon for the ultimate sacrifice,

We will be ready to follow the example of our patron,

And of our Lord.

We will be ready to answer Christ’s call,

And receive the reward he promises,

                                    Those who lose their life for my sake will find it.

 

We are prepared by the only force on earth

That can provide the power to do such a thing . . .

The power of LOVE.

 

Amen.

 

 

[1] “Theirs was a 25-year romance,” Washington Post, 6/26/16

[2] http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-36526028

[3] https://www.buzzfeed.com/andrewkaczynski/the-heroes-of-sandy-hook?utm_term=.acw7xPgjX#.ymg4BG29P

Are we to wait?

Matthew 11:2-11

3 Advent – 12/11/16

St. Alban’s Annandale

The Rev. Dr. Rosemary Beales

 

“Are we to wait?”

He couldn’t help asking, as he languished in a jail cell. His people had waited so long for dawn to rise over a darkened sky. He had drawn the people to him, preaching the way of the Lord, the way of justice and truth. He had traveled in dangerous territory, comforting the oppressed and confronting the powerful.

 

But his preaching was too political, they said,

and so he sat in jail, with a question on his mind:

Are we to wait?

 

While he waited, young Martin Luther King Jr. read again the newspaper column that an ally had spirited to his cell. And with the question on his heart, he began to write, in the margins of the newspaper, the words that would one day be known as Letter From Birmingham Jail.

*   *   *

“Are we to wait?” another prisoner, 20 centuries before, wondered. John the Baptizer’s people had waited so long for the One who was to come, the Messiah. John had traveled dangerous paths, drawing people to himself, drawing them to God. Though his words were full of fire and axes and winnowing forks, his hope was in a new, rose-colored dawn. The One for whom they had waited was very near, the one whose sandals he was not fit to carry . . . at least the one he thought was the One.

But now John sits in jail ¾ or I imagine, he cannot sit. The wild man who once had all wilderness to wander in, paces, in a cell smaller than one of our parking spaces. He walks alone, for his captors cannot allow him to poison any other minds with talk of a kingdom that is not Herod’s, a kingdom John swears is coming.

And now, the law of Herod’s kingdom has brought him to this place,

where he wonders:

Where exactly IS God’s kingdom? And just HOW near has it come,

Because anytime now that “the one more powerful than I” wants to demonstrate his power — and set John free— would be OK with John. How long, O Lord?

Maybe John is hoping to shake that answer loose

when he sends his friends to Jesus asking:

“Are you the one who is to come, or are we to wait for another?”   

 

*     *     *

“Wait” is what the white clergymen of Birmingham had advised Dr. King to do in an open letter published in the newspaper he held. The demonstrations he led were called “unwise and untimely.” Why had he come from Atlanta to confront the segregated businesses of Birmingham?

But, King scrawled in the margins, “I am here because injustice is here.”

Having been invited by other Southern leaders, he came to teach about nonviolent resistance, which includes willingness to be arrested for violating unjust laws. Because the powers in Birmingham ¾ modern-day Herods, you might say ¾ had outlawed all public demonstrations, King went to jail on Good Friday 1963[1] for failing to obtain a parade permit. And there, for a full week, he waited, thought and wrote.

“For years now I have heard the word ‘Wait!’ . . . This ‘Wait’ has almost always meant ‘Never.’”

 

Responding to a fellow pastor’s reproach that “the teachings of Christ take time to come to earth,” King wrote that time does not cure all ills. And, in words that speak to every era, he continued,

“We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the hateful words and actions of the bad people, but for the appalling silences of the good people. . . . 

The time is always ripe to do right.”[2]

*     *     *

Jesus could have been speaking of King, as much as John, when he declared him “a prophet, yes, and more than a prophet.”

For both these prophets pointed toward the One we await today,

the King who came and is still coming.

We don’t know John’s reaction when his disciples returned to Herod’s jail, reporting that “the blind receive their sight, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised and the poor have good news brought to them.”

For in all that good news, Jesus did not say, “the prisoners are set free.”

John was to continue to wait, in faith that the Messiah was at work, that God was at work. He was to wait, though as we know, his waiting would end with execution. He would become a forerunner of Jesus in every way.

Yet something tells me, from what we know about John, that he heard Jesus’ words with a ring of hope. Even in his bleak circumstances, he thought not about himself but about the salvation that was breaking in. John knew his scripture, so he remembered the words of Isaiah: “Strengthen the weak hands and make firm the feeble knees. Say to a fearful heart, ‘Be strong, do not fear!, here is your God.”

John remembered that, as Isaiah tells us today, when the eyes of the blind are opened and ears of the deaf unstopped, when the lame walk and the lepers are cleansed, all these are signs. Not of immediate victory but of eternal hope.

* * *

And so we wait. Here on the third Sunday of Advent, we wait, not just for the birth we’ll celebrate in two weeks, but for the full inbreaking of the kingdom of justice and healing and rose-colored dawn.

We wait, but we do more than wait. For like John, like Martin, we do not wait without hope.

We wait with commitment to those who cannot afford to wait for

an end to their hunger,

their grievous losses to gun violence,

their rejection as refugees.

We wait with those who suffer imprisonment, as far too many young black men do.

We wait with those who have no homes,

no hope of a cure from cancer or Alzheimer’s,

no prospect for proper education or employment.

We wait, but we also work. That is our call this Advent.

For if we accept and sanction the way things are, the Church risks, in Martin Luther King’s words, being “dismissed as an irrelevant social club with no meaning”[3] for our times.

I think John the Baptist would agree. I think Jesus would agree.

In a world sorely in need of justice, truth, and love,

in need of a rose-colored dawn,

what are we waiting for?

 

 

[1] https://kinginstitute.stanford.edu/king-resources/major-king-events-chronology-1929-1968

[2] Martin Luther King Jr., Letter from Birmingham Jail, 1963.

[3] Ibid.

Ash Wednesday 2017

Matthew 6:1-6, 19-21

Ash Wednesday 3/1/17

St. Andrew’s Arlington

The Rev. Dr. Rosemary Beales

 

“Here’s what I want you to do:

Find a quiet, secluded place … just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage .“

 

Sounds simple, this advice from Jesus, doesn’t it?

Simple, but certainly not easy.

In our crazy-busy world, setting aside some time to just BE, and to BE with God, might be the Hardest. Thing. Ever. It’s so easy to get distracted ¾ I know, because it happens to me every time I try.

But today I pledge to try again, because today we begin again the season of Lent. And Lent is all about trying again.

Jesus, who knows the human heart, knows how hard we try. And Jesus knows that trying to come close to God is full of pitfalls. Sometimes when we think we’re doing something for God, we are fooling ourselves. We’re really doing it for the good feeling we get, or for the praise of other people, or for adults, for the tax deduction.

And you know what to do when you realize that’s happened to you? You try again.

What Jesus says in today’s reading about people who do everything for show ¾ “the play-actors” who care mostly about impressing God and other people ¾ reminds me of a story I heard recently, about a cake. This cake was decorated splendidly with ribbons of icing, sugar medallions, lavish sparkles and silver stars. But only the top layer was really cake. The rest was decorated Styrofoam. Pretty on the outside, hollow within.

Jesus never heard of Styrofoam, but I think that cake is something like the people he was telling his disciples ¾ telling us ¾ not to be like.

“When you do something for other people,” he says, “don’t call attention to yourself.” So I wonder if that’s something all of us can TRY to do this Lent. At least once a day, why not do something for someone else without mentioning it to anyone? Maybe just the person you helped will know, say letting a classmate get to the water fountain first. Or maybe even the person you help won’t know, if you do something kind but invisible, like picking up something they dropped and putting it on their desk.

Such “random acts of kindness” are a good way for all of us to live this Lent. Kind acts shine like stars, silently lighting up the darkness. When we do kind acts, we come very close to God, without even trying.                 Amen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And the Word was made vulnerable

Luke 1:46-55

8/15&16/2015 Feast of John Myrick Daniels

St. Paul’s Alexandria

The Rev. Dr. Rosemary Beales

 

In the name of our loving, liberating, and life-giving God. Amen.[1]

My soul magnifies the Lord and my spir .… wait a minute!

How can I, a small human being, magnify God, who is already bigger than the entire universe?

How could Mary magnify God, and how could Jonathan Myrick Daniels, whose life and martyrdom we remember today, make God any larger than God already is?

How can any of us magnify the enormous, all-encompassing, great Creator God?

The question used to trouble me back when I was a small, strange child who thought too much about the words of prayers and songs I heard every day.

And I did hear daily the words of Mary’s song, the lovely Magnificat we just heard her speak in the gospel today. My family’s daily recitation of the rosary – five decades of one Our Father, 10 Hail Marys, and a Glory Be (yes, you counted right, that’s 50 Hail Mary’s) – was made even longer by additional prayers to which my dear mother was devoted. Is it any wonder my mind wandered? Back then, it was just an attempt to stay awake, but today I would give more credibility to my straying thoughts, acknowledge the value of repeated, rhythmic prayer, and call my mind’s wandering “wondering.” So, I still wonder how a small human being can magnify our magnificent God?

*****

Mary was just a small, human being — maybe 14 years old — when she journeyed to a village in the Judean hill country, seeking out the company of her older cousin Elizabeth. Now Elizabeth was advanced in age, 29 or 30, and she had given up hope of becoming a mother. But Mary knew Elizabeth’s secret, told her by the same angel Gabriel, who had announced that God had chosen her to be the mother of God.

So Mary, filled with good news, and also with her growing baby, set out to see Elizabeth to celebrate with her, perhaps, or to avoid nosy neighbors – but above all, to exult in what God was doing for the whole, wide world in her small body.

Near the site where this Visitation happened, there is a church. That is one way we humans magnify the things that matter to us: we build. Somewhere below the bulk of the Church of the Visitation, lies perhaps a well where two women would have met. Or maybe there’s a patch of dirt where Elizabeth was tending her beans when her young cousin labored up the hill.

Their meeting caused Elizabeth’s own infant, John, to leap in her womb, inspiring his mother’s timeless shout, “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb!”

And Mary, surely inspired by the Holy Spirit who had overshadowed her at the angel’s visit, broke into the song we remember today:

“My soul magnifies the Lord,

And my spirit rejoices in God my Savior.”

For not only has God done great things for Mary, God is doing great things through her for the good of the world.

She sings of a great reversal, a jubilee of justice that will come in the future, but that she’s so confident will happen that she celebrates it in the past tense, as if it has already occurred:

He has scattered the proud in the conceits of their hearts,

He has brought down the powerful from their thrones, and lifted up the lowly;

He has filled the hungry with good things, and sent the rich away empty.”

 In her small, human body that day, Mary carried the One who will fulfill those promises, the Ruler of the Universe who for a time consented to be protected only by the frail flesh of a teenage girl. The Word became vulnerable and dwelt among us.

In the city of Nazareth these days, a huge church has grown around the place where Mary heard the angel’s words and said “yes” to all that God would ask of her. The Church of the Annunciation is built like a fortress, layer upon layer of stone erected over the centuries as different conquerors expanded the building. In the midst of all that fortification, it’s hard to perceive

that once, God came into the world unfortified, unguarded, undefended,

except in the body of one small human being.

 

How can a small human being like Mary magnify the Lord?

How can a small human being like Jonathan Myrick Daniels?

*****

It was Mary’s song, Magnificat, that inspired Daniels 50 years ago to travel unprotected to Selma, Alabama, to take part in civil rights activities. Then a seminarian at Episcopal Theological Seminary in Massachusetts, Daniels could have stuck to his studies and let others take the risks. Daniels’ path to seminary had not been easy. While a student at Virginia Military Institute, he had experienced a crisis of faith that continued for several years, after by the death of his father and prolonged illness of his sister. An Easter service moved his heart, and he decided to study for the priesthood, planning to graduate in 1966.

But plans change. In the spring of 1965, the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King asked students to join him in Selma, and during evening prayer at the seminary chapel, Daniels, who had heard King’s call, heard the words of Mary’s song.

In his journal, Daniels wrote: “I had come to evening prayer as usual, and as usual I was singing the Magnificat with the special love and reverence I have always felt for Mary’s glad song….As the lovely hymn of the God-bearer continued, I found myself peculiarly alert, suddenly straining toward the decisive, luminous, Spirit-filled ‘moment’ …Then it came. “He hath put down the mighty from their seat, and hath exalted the humble and meek. He hath filled the hungry with good things.’”

The familiar words suddenly shimmered with meaning for Daniels, and, as he wrote, “I knew then that I must go to Selma.”

Once there, Daniels knew that a drop-in weekend visit was not enough. He returned to school, but only to get permission to stay in Selma and study on his own while working to register black voters. He tutored children, helped poor people apply for aid, and assembled of list of resources for people in need. On Sundays, he worked to integrate a local Episcopal church, although the group of African-American students he sat with were … tolerated, not welcomed.

On August 14 that year, Daniels was one of a group of 29 protesters who went to Fort Deposit, Ala., to protest stores that had a whites-only policy. There, they were arrested and spent 6 days in a crowded jail without working toilets, showers or air conditioning—and this in the crushing Alabama heat. Daniels led the group in hymn singing and prayers to boost their morale.

Finally, freedom came (though some say the group’s sudden release was a setup). Longing for a cold drink, Daniels and a Catholic priest, along with two young African-American women, walked the 50 yards to a small grocery where they had shopped in mixed groups before. This time, however, they were met at the door by an unemployed highway worker who had been deputized as a sheriff. The man leveled a weapon at one of the teenagers, Ruby Sales, but before he could fire, Jonathan Myrick Daniels pushed Ruby out of the way. The shotgun blast, pointblank to his chest, stopped his hero’s heart. His killer was acquitted by an all-white jury.

Jonathan Daniels has been remembered in the church’s calendar since 1991, but that, of course, was not his purpose in going to Selma or in laying down his life to save Ruby (who, incidentally, has stayed the course, becoming a lifelong leader in human rights efforts).

Daniels wasn’t out to glorify himself, but to magnify the Lord.

And how did he do that?

He did it in the same way that his beloved Virgin Mary did — by placing his vulnerable, human body at the service of the Creator of the Universe. Our vulnerable human bodies, with the minds and spirits they enclose, are all we have to offer to God or to God’s beloved children.

Christians from all over the country, including many from our diocese led by Bishop Shannon Johnston, have used their bodies this week to walk a pilgrimage, moving from the Hayneville, Ala., Jail where Daniels was held, to the site of the store where he sacrificed his life, and on to churches for worship.

I wasn’t there, but I think it’s a safe bet that as they walked, this group of pilgrims sang – sang songs of hope, songs of peace, songs of justice and freedom, songs of love. I can well imagine they sang Mary’s song.

What do Mary’s song, what do Jonathan’s sacrifice, mean for us? How do we small, human beings magnify our impossibly enormous God?

In our own small, human, vulnerable, bodies, that’s how, as we take risks for what is right and just, and for people who are also beloved by God.

We magnify God as we live like we believe what St. Paul writes in Galatians: that we are all children of God, for “there is no longer Jew or Greek, there is no longer slave or free, there is no longer male and female,” there is no longer black and white, or gay and straight, or native and immigrant, or young and old, or east or west or north or south, or anything else that separates and divides the children of God.

When we live as if we truly believe that truth, sacrificing perhaps not our lives but our prejudices, our comfort, our plans, and our treasure, our magnificent God will be magnified for all to see.

And that is something to sing about.

 

Amen.

[1] Prayer borrowed from the Rt. Rev. Michael Curry

Mary said Yes

Luke 1:26-38

Homily for Chapel

St. Stephen’s & St. Agnes School

12-15-09 AND 12/13/16

 

High on the mantelpiece sat a plain, woven basket. Every Advent, my mother would bring it out, show us a china figure of the infant Jesus, and announce that it was our job to prepare a bed for him. Every good deed we did — every time we obeyed our parents, or helped a brother or sister, or did our homework without being reminded — we got to place a “straw” — a piece of yarn — in the basket. You might think it got filled up pretty quickly with 8 children contributing – but we were just ordinary kids, and so, many of those yarns got taken away because we fought, or forgot to do our chores. Mysteriously, though, by Christmas day, that baby always had a soft, cozy resting place.

Today, in our reading we heard about the person who made Jesus his very first resting place. Now, Jesus was a special baby, but he had to be born, just like any ordinary baby. He needed the same things other babies need. And do you know what a baby needs most of all? Every baby needs a MOTHER. Without a mother, there is no baby!

So this is the story of Jesus’ mother, Mary, and how she came to BE his mother. She was just an ordinary teenager on that warm spring day, when a soft breeze was blowing through the olive trees and playing the branches like strings on a harp. Mary might have been watching the leaves dance, or hanging the laundry out to dry, or feeding the chickens. She might have been praying. We don’t really know.

We DO know that suddenly, something changed. On that ordinary day, something EXTRAordinary happened. Suddenly, there was an EXTRAordinary sound, and Mary heard a voice she had never heard before.

(ring bells.) Hail, favored one.”

Mary looked up and saw . . . someone she had never seen before. He was not just a stranger – he was strange. Though he had the shape of an ordinary man, he was EXTRAordinary, because he had wings as white as snow and eyes like two flames. Mary was ready to run away, Then the voice spoke again:

(ring)Do not be afraid.

Mary was afraid, but she was also brave, so she stopped, turned around, and heard the Angel Gabriel say:

(ring) “God has chosen you to bear a child who will be God’s own presence on earth. People will call him the Son of God. You will call him Jesus.”

Mary wondered how that could be. She wondered how someone as young as she was could be a mother. She wondered how someone as ordinary as she was could be the mother of God.

But then she heard the voice again:

(ring) “Nothing will be impossible with God!”

Then Mary, this ordinary girl, said something EXTRAordinary. Something inside her began to stir. She felt as if the breeze blowing the leaves outside was blowing through her soul. She felt her heart swell with love, until it felt like a huge, golden bell inside her chest, and she answered in words that still ring in people’s ears today. Mary said:

(ring) Here I am

(ring) the servant of the Lord,

(ring) Let it be with me, according to God’s word.”

Mary said: (ring) YES.

That is Mary’s story. And it is your story, too.

Mary made room for God, and carried Jesus in her own body. You can make room for God, too, and carry him in your heart – this Christmas and always. Every time you show kindness to someone, your heart grows bigger. It is like you are inviting God to come and live inside you. It is like you are saying to God, (ring) “Here I am, God. (ring) YES.”

You shall be holy

Matt 5:38-48

7 Epiphany – 2/19/17

St. Paul’s Alexandria

The Rev. Dr. Rosemary Beales

 

BE PERFECT, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

 

“You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees

for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. . .”[1]

 

Those lines from the poet Mary Oliver would have been a blessing to a young monk in the 16th century. This young man was striving to be perfect, as he believed God was calling him to be and Jesus was demanding in the gospel we heard this morning. Martin Luther had entered an Augustinian monastery, determined to earn his way into heaven. But even there, wrapped in frequent worship, study and contemplation, Martin suffered painfully from the feeling that he was a condemned sinner. Confessing several times a day did not help. Finally, in an effort to free Martin from his scruples, his superior sent him away.

In a memorable scene from the movie Luther, he is ascending on his knees the steps of a great cathedral. Along with him are hundreds of other pilgrims ¾ mostly peasants, people who can ill afford the trek they are making or the silver they drop into the offering plate at the top. You can see on Martin’s face the epiphany he experiences, as he realizes that none of this is necessary, that all has already been forgiven in Jesus Christ.

He sets out to cleanse and reform the Church he loves, but Martin continues all his life to wrestle with Scripture — just as we do. He made peace with the difficult words of Jesus we hear today by deciding that they were meant to show believers the impossibility of meeting God’s high standards and the necessity of God’s grace.

 

Listen again to what Jesus expects from us. Maybe it will help to hear bits of a modern translation by Eugene Peterson, in The Message:

 

  • Don’t hit back.
  • If someone sues for the shirt off your back, giftwrap your best coat and make a present of it.
  • Love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer.
  • This is what God does: He gives his best ¾ the sun to warm and the rain to nourish ¾ to everyone: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. If all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus?
  • You’re kingdom subjects. Now live like it. Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you.

 

If that sounds impossible, consider our reading from Leviticus, part of the Torah’s Holiness Code, which focuses on right relationship with God. Why leave some crops untouched in your fields so that hungry people might collect them? Why not steal, and lie, and put stumbling blocks before others? Why not hate in your heart? The answer appears as a refrain throughout the passage: because “I am the Lord.”

But these are not so much demands as calls to fresh relationship, renewing and expanding the covenant given at Sinai. “You shall be holy, for I the LORD your God am holy.” YOU SHALL is imperative — a command ¾ but also declarative, a fact. You WILL be holy, because you belong to me. To be holy means not to be impossibly virtuous, but to be set apart as a people belonging to God, living graciously and generously as God lives. It means not a self-righteous certainty, but ¾ as Luther discovered ¾ a reliance on God’s righteousness.

It means, above all, relationship. It’s no accident that Jesus, later in Matthew’s gospel, will quote this part of Leviticus when he declares the greatest commandments ¾ [those we hear every week at this service]: To love God with all your heart and soul and mind; and ¾ here’s Leviticus — love your neighbor as yourself.

You shall be perfect. You shall be holy. This is not an impossible demand, but an invitation to live out God’s generosity and graciousness, to the best of your human ability.

A little story from our nation’s recent past may illustrate this best.

Julie Otsuka tells this story in her book When the Emperor Was Divine[2]. Just before the boy and his mother and sister were taken away ¾ his father was already gone ¾ Elizabeth next door came to say goodbye. She slipped a smooth, blue stone into his pocket.

The boy kept that stone through the long train ride and later, at the camp where he was imprisoned because of the slope of his eyes and the language his family spoke and because national security was at stake. Elizabeth, the only one of his neighbors who wrote to him, sometimes sent him things ¾ a riddle book, a picture from the paper ¾ and once, a tulip bulb. There in the Utah desert, the boy planted the bulb in a rusty peach can found behind the mess hall. Tamped it down good. Wondered about it all winter. And then one March day, a shoot of green. Later, a burst of yellow. Hope in a barren desert.

I like to remember this story, especially on this Day of Remembrance that recalls the date ¾ February 19,1942[3] ¾ when an executive order consigned Americans of Japanese descent to internment camps. The family in our story was one of them, as was George Takei ¾ you remember him as Sulu on the Starship Enterprise, and now as the creator of a film called Allegiance, about his family’s incarceration.

But I like this story for another reason: because it demonstrates how possible ¾ indeed, how easy — it can be to live with generosity and graciousness.

“You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles repenting…” says Mary Oliver, and adds, “You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.” And I say,You only have to let the softness of God within you love what God loves.

It can be easy. Elizabeth, in our story, provided simple acts of friendship in a time of suspicion and separation. Loving our neighbor can be as easy as that, as simple as taking part with other St. Paul’s folks in “gleaning” the leftovers at Old Town’s farmers’ market for hungry neighbors. As simple as learning a few words of Spanish or Arabic to address new Virginians.

“You’re kingdom subjects,” says Jesus. “Now live like it. Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you.”

You will be holy because the God you belong to is holy. Let those words and God’s grace ¾ not the impossible task of achieving perfection on your own — be your epiphany today.

 

Amen.

[1] “Wild Geese,” by Mary Oliver

 

[2] Julie Otsuka, When the Emperor Was Divine (New York: Anchor Books, 2002).

[3] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Day_of_Remembrance_(Japanese_Americans)

How do you say goodbye?

John 12:1-8

Lent 4C – 3/13/16

St. Alban’s, Annandale, VA

The Rev. Dr. Rosemary Beales

 

The fragrance of the perfume filled the house.

 

 

Honeysuckle …… Ocean air.……. Baking bread………

 

When you heard those words, didn’t you almost SMELL them? Didn’t they take you back to some summer, some holiday, some Saturday?

 

Some say our sense of smell is the oldest and most primitive of all. Perhaps that explains why words fail to describe something that has to be experienced. Imitation fails, too: I’ve never smelled a perfume or air freshener or candle that comes close to the real essence of baking bread, or ocean air, or honeysuckle.

 

I can only imagine what pure nard smells like — something spicy and complex, the experts say .But I know what it smelled like to at least two people in our gospel story today ¾ and like something quite different to a third.

 

The house in Bethany, on the eastern outskirts of Jerusalem, was filled that evening, as Martha and Mary and Lazarus – LAZarus! – hosted the habdalah meal that ends the Sabbath rest. Jesus and his disciples had spent that Friday evening and Saturday in Bethany, their home away from home.

 

Was it pure intuition that Mary knew how soon that peace, that togetherness,would be shattered?

Or was it because, in another story, she had sat at his feet and listened, really listened? Had she heard him predict his passion and death and, unlike many others, believed him?

 

 

 

For suddenly, above the familiar odors of roasted lamb and olive oil and wood smoke comes a startling aroma, so strong it must have taken thousands of spikenard roots to produce it.

Into the house that so recently knew the stink of death ¾ Lazarus’ death ¾ comes the luxurious scent of spice. And there is Mary, massaging her expensive balm into Jesus’ feet, caressing them with her hair, demonstrating her love not only with her worldly wealth but with her body.

 

To Mary, AND to Jesus, the aroma smalls like love – generous, sacrificial love.

 

To Judas, it smells like . . . a waste of money. Greed, and envy, and perhaps a cup of wine too many, make him mutter, “Why wasn’t this stuff sold and the money given to the poor?”

 

Mary has nothing to say but lets her actions speak.

 

Jesus defends her, knowing that beneath her shimmering gesture of love lies a shadow. He knows… she knows… that her perfume will have to last his lifetime. Her hands — the last gentle human touch he will know — are preparing him for his own act of sacrificial love. She is preparing him for his burial.

 

How do you say goodbye?

 

Mary gives her answer, with her intimate act of comfort.

Jesus gives his answer, too. His goodbye to Mary is a refuge: “Leave her alone.”

His goodbye to Judas is a reminder: “You always have the poor with you.”

 

Jim Wallis, founder of Sojourners and a passionate voice for justice, calls these words of Jesus the most misused in all of scripture. “You always have the poor with you” does not mean “there’s nothing you can do about poverty, so why bother?”

Rather, his words suggest that the disciples ¾ after Jesus is gone ¾ will remember him by remaining close to the least and the lowly.

Jesus assumed, Wallis says, the disciples’ “proximity to the poor.”[1]

In a sense, Jesus is telling Judas, and the rest of the room, where he wants his memorial contributions, in lieu of flowers, to be sent. Mary has already provided the flowers, distilled into perfume. Let the rest of his followers honor him by serving those he loved most in life.

How do you say goodbye?

This week, I had a good example of how a community in mourning is following the example of Jesus.

My brother priest in the Diocese of Maryland, Wes Wubbenhorst, delivered a final sermon as his earthly life drew near its end. Wes has fought cancer for 11 months and is now too weak to stand and speak. His spirit ¾ joyful, wacky, and filled with LOVE and HOPE ¾ shone through his words[2]. His final sermon, was posted on a site set up by his friends.

Wes’s post, punctuated by the WHISTLES, WOWS, AND TA-DA’s that marked his passionate work with young people in Maryland, recounts how he and his wife, as a young Peace Corps couple, ended up in Honduras, years ago.

Working with special-needs children and abandoned street kids, Wes found his way to El Hogar de Amor y Esperanza – The Home of LOVE AND HOPE.

 

From Peace Corps to Baltimore, Wes shared his gifts with young people ¾ and changed lives, bringing countless teens from the Diocese of Maryland to Honduras. Their tributes to him on the website are clear signs of how his influence has rippled into their lives.

But God isn’t finished with Wes yet.

“One of my last wishes,” he wrote, “is that you remember me by remembering Honduras.” In lieu of flowers, Wes’s friends will send LOVE AND HOPE to El Hogar and the Episcopal Diocese of Honduras. The last time I checked, donations had so far exceeded the $20,000 goal that it was raised to $50.000.

That outpouring is a little like Mary’s outpouring of her expensive perfume. It will send Wes on the rest of his journey with the knowledge that while “the poor will always be with you,” their lives will be a little richer.

Wes understood those words of Jesus. YOU, individually and as a congregation, have also heard and heeded those words. “The poor will always be with us,” but we are called to pour out our love for Jesus by pouring out love for the children of Our Little Roses in Honduras, for the families at Belvedere Elementary next door, for the people of Hurley, Virginia in Appalachia, and so many more.

Because of people like you, and people like Wes and his friends,

people who are poor will never be without LOVE AND HOPE.

BECAUSE JESUS poured out his love in sacrificial offering for us all,

we have LOVE AND HOPE too.

We can enter the final weeks of Lent knowing that

we are not, after all, saying goodbye.

The burial will happen, but it will be like a seed

that holds within it the promise of new and fragrant life.

Soon, the fragrance of Jesus’ self-giving love and its glorious fruition on Easter morning will fill THIS house again.

One day, the fragrance of his followers’ love for the poor will fill the world.

Amen.

[1] Jim Wallis, God’s Politics: Why the Right Gets It Wrong and the Left Doesn’t Get It (San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 2005),

[2]https://www.youcaring.com/wes-wubbenhorst-memorial-to-benefit-honduras-535037